One of the first things you learned about Feng Shui was to position your bed to see the door of your bedroom. Why? So you could see if someone was trying to invade your bedroom and attack you.
Does this reasoning apply to your home in today’s world?
Positioning your bed with the head against a window looks dramatic, but feels ungrounded and exposed.
You also learned what Feng Shui discovered two thousand years ago, and modern social psychology discovered fifty years ago: People do not feel comfortable when their back is exposed. You are hardwired to be hyper-vigilant when you back is to a door or open space, because you cannot see if a saber-tooth tiger, or other danger, is approaching from behind. This is a protective, survival response that reasoning cannot turn off.
What happens when these two ideas clash?
What do you do when the wall opposite your bedroom door, where you would put your bed, is filled with windows? Do you position your bed against/under winders so you can see any potential intruders in your doorway, even though you feel sub-consciously vigilant and have difficulty sleeping? Or do you position your bed against another wall and lose your direct view of the door?
I discovered two interesting facts about Chinese history and culture that contribute to Feng Shui:
- Until the twentieth century there were no banks in China. If your family had wealth (cash) they hid it in their home – maybe under the mattress.
- When poor farmers where thrown off their land because they couldn’t pay the oppressive taxes, they would band together and steal from the rich to feed their families – like Robin Hood.
Therefore, in old China, having a bandit break into your home to steal your family’s wealth was a real danger. But is this your reality today? You feel secure in your home. Your money is in a bank. There are no marauding bandits roaming your neighborhood.
When I am working with a client and the wall opposite the door is ungrounded and exposed by windows, I recommend they position the head of their bed against a solid wall. This will help to ground them when they sleep and will support more restful sleep (the hyper-vigilance response is not triggered).
If there is more than one spacious, grounded position for their bed then I use their Lo Shu number (lucky directions) as a tie-breaker in deciding where to position their bed.
How do you position your bed? How does it affect your ability to sleep? Do you have a challenging bedroom set-up? Share your experiences and thoughts in the comments below. I love to hear from you.